So, to satisfy my curiosity, I took the book myself and flipped a few pages, and it is really interesting. So, I asked Jarret to help me to borrow the book( the book belongs to his brother's gf).
The first chapter talks about how our brain works..and how the information is transmitted to our brain... but the first chapter will be a disaster for someone who dislike Biology..
I got the book last week, didn't get to finish it yet, however, when I came across to the third chapter, one incidents caught my attention.
The story goes like this....
David Pologruto, a high-school physics teacher, was stabbed with a kitchen knife by one of his star students.
Jason, a sophomore and straight-A student at a Coral Springs, Florida, high school, was fixated on getting into medical school. Not just any medical school but Harvard.
Unfortunately, Pologruto, his physics teacher, had given him an 80 on a quiz..And guess what, the grade, a mere B, put his dream in jeopardy..
Jason took a butcher knife to school and, in a confrontation with Pologruto in the physics lab, stabbed his teacher in the collarbone before being subdued in a struggle.
A judge foun Jason innocent, temporarily insane during the incident..Jason claimed he had been planning to commit suicide because of the test score, and had gone to Pologruto to tell him he was killing himself because of the bad grade. Pologruto told a different story: " I think he tried to completely do me in with the knife" because he was infuriated over the bad grade.
After transferring to a private school, Jason graduated 2 years later at the top of his class. A perfect grade with 4.0 average, but he had take nenogh advanced courses to raise his grade to 4.614....way beyond A+.
but Jason never apologized and take responsibility for the attack...
This true story ends here but leave me into some thinking...
I am always not good with my grades..not because I am stupid, I believed I am highly smart and intelligent, I just can't get good grades. That is not a big deals for me as I know getting good grades doesn't mean you will get a better future life.
But for many students or parents I supposed, a flying colors in school results are highly essential.
I have seen students collapsed after they knew their results weren't what they expected...
Some even ridiculous, looking for ways to suicide.
After that, only I realized, EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE means the abilities of being able to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations, to control impulse and delay gratification; to regulate one's moods and keep distress from swamping the ability to think; to empathize and to hope.
Unlike IQ, with its nearly 100 years history of research with hundreds of thousands of people, emotional intelligence is a new concept. No one can yet say exactly how much of the variability from person to person in life's course it accounts for. But what data exist suggest it can be as powerful and at times more powerful, than IQ.
I myself experienced a surge of impulse to trade with higher stake after a losing trade in Forex... Until I open the new trade, only I realized I am killing my own margin. And the result? Margin call...
Fortunately, after a few years of trading, I am now able to control not all, but part of my impulse.
I will needa learn to improve my EQ, not only in trading, but with many others aspects in life! I think this shall be my new year resolution. To improve my EQ.
If someone or some events challenged your EQ, will you be able to stand up tall with the challenge? or lose it out?
Emotional Intelligence: 10th Anniversary Edition; Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
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